You can do anything you put your mind to. Really. There are only a few things holding you back, and one of them is intimidation. Whether we realize it or not, intimidation is one of the biggest factors in deciding not to do something awesome. Many times, just the information about an event, or the potential problems our subconscious creates can make us intimidated by something so that we decide not to do it. Sometimes without our conscious mind even being aware of it. Here are some examples and tips to help you understand the process better, and to overcome those pesky nagging negative thoughts to break through and do something awesome!
Understanding the Process
Your main purpose in living is … living. As an organism, your body and mind wish to protect you as much as possible to continue that all-important act of living. This is why we have those small things such as pain, quick response time, and the fight or flight reaction.
Understanding the pain one is easy. If there is pain, try to reduce or stop it immediately. Understanding the mind’s interaction with the saving you process, however, is more complicated. See, the subconscious is your savior. It (after training when young of course) keeps you from doing things like walking into traffic, or touching a hot stove, or leaping off of a building. These are good things for it to stop. Unfortunately for the awesomeness part of us, it doesn’t distinguish very well the difference between jumping off of that building with or without a parachute, or see the reason in climbing a rock face with little to no gain. This is where you have to train your subconscious to know the difference.
It’s All About the Willpower
Think on this: ''Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.'' Robert F. Bennett, an 18-year U.S. Senator, truly believed that, and it was his life philosophy.
Merriam-Webster defines willpower as “the ability to control yourself” and “a strong determination that allows you to do something difficult.” Willpower can control your intimidation. If you feel that your willpower is lacking a little bit, then objectively look at the situation. What are the risks as compared to the rewards? Do you think you can do it? Is there more training necessary to get to the point where you need to accomplish it? Answer these questions, and you may find that the intimidation is reducing by the minute.
Make a Plan
Intimidation, amongst other things, also comes from a lack of knowledge. This is where planning comes in. Planning an event takes some of the negative mystery out of the equation. Let’s use the rock climbing example. If you are already a rock climber, most likely you are not going to be intimidated very much by any surface you are going to climb. However, if it’s something you have always wanted to get into, it might be a bit intimidating at first, if for nothing else the amount of time and effort you need to put into it.
Making a plan helps to break it into bite sized pieces. For example, the first step in your plan should be to head to a climbing center, where you can take a beginner day-class, and see if climbing is something you enjoy, and if your body is ready for it. If the enjoyment and body is there, continue your plan, take some classes, get your gear, and then go on an organized climb. It might take a while, but the intimidation factor will have completely disappeared. If your arm strength isn’t quite there yet, you may have to continue in the indoor climbing center for a while and hit the gym to get where you need to be.
Answer Two Questions
The two questions are “What’s the worst that can happen?” and “What’s the best that can happen?” Answering those gives you the broadest range of possible of answers. If you can ameliorate the chances of the worst happening by good planning, and increase the chances of the best (which is usually having an awesome experience and honing your skills!), you can bet that the intimidation factor will decrease.